Hi everyone! I need your help!

So a friend at work was telling me the truth about what people think of me. She said everyone thinks I'm really sensitive (which I am) and that I care a lot about others (which I do). But, I guess the fact that I care about the people around me is a bad thing because the group of girls she's talking about say I just need to stop.

Stop caring about others? Sense when did caring about fellow human beings become such a bad thing? Is it because they aren't used to it? Now... this is what I do... so that you don't think I care too much: When someone is sick or tired I let them rest in the fitting room while I work (I work at a clothing store); if someone is having a really bad day I'm there to ask them whats wrong and listen to their problem; I do feel protective of anyone around me who is hurting, so If I have to protect them in some way then I feel like I should.

An example of this is when a fellow co-worker was going through a really hard time. I was helping her up to the employees lounge because she asked me to... and she started crying. She fell against me while we were on the escalator and I held her until we got to the employees lounge. We walk in, and another employee says, "What the fuck is wrong with you? You're always walking around all sad and shit, what the fuck's your problem?". SO.... the obscenities and her attitude just made me react. I said, "Just leave her alone". And then this girl goes off and says that I don't NEED to speak for her, she can speak for herself. Now... was I wrong to feel protective of the employee who just finished crying in my arms? I don't think I was. If I was her... I would want someone to be there for me. I don't expect it, but I would appreciate it.

So... apparently I "take the extra mile" with my caring. But I don't consider any of this as taking the extra mile. It's SO natural for me to care about those around me. I can't just sit there and watch someone cry... I can't... I have to comfort them. Is that so wrong? I just don't understand. When they say they are okay I don't keep pushing myself on them... I then leave them alone.

I want to take her advice, but I don't feel like I should. It feels wrong, and against my nature. She says that by acting this way it'll be easy for people to take advantage of me. But, I don't feel taken advantage of. I don't help them because I expect something in return... I do it because I want to help.

What do you guys think?

Thank you everyone for getting me to 30,000!!! You guys are the sweetest bunch of people... thank you so much.

I just finished a phone interview and have to say that I'm scared... so scared. I have never interviewed over the phone (I'm already awkward on the phone), and it's also been my first design job interview. He asked me if I was "Straight Edge" vegan.. and I'm thinking... "strict". Lol... I'm such an idiot. I'm like, "Oh yea... I'm straight edge!"... which really means I don't drink or do drugs. This I didn't know... because the job is for a soap company that makes a product out of beer. I'm TOTALLY fine with that, even though I don't drink. However, I feel like an idiot for not knowing what "straight edge" was... I didn't realize what it was until he started talking about the company. Wow...

Here's hoping he can look past my awkward interview and think I am worth going to for the job.

Thanks again you guys!

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Olumide and I have been stuck in the house for a while so we needed to get out and see one of the movies we've been waiting to watch. During the first minute or so I was wondering if the movie was going to be as good as I thought it was going to be. But once they get in there... and you know whats going on... you are in a for a ride! Not an action ride... but an emotional one. District 9 is an AMAZING film. It is pretty much the tale of Apartheid in South Africa only with aliens. They are called the derogatory term "prawn" and the things the humans do are just... well... it's realistic. This film reminded me of why I'm a vegan. The horrible way that humans treat each other and other living things is just repulsive. I felt like crying during a good portion of the film. I WAS PMSing at the time... but still. The story really takes a look at humanity and how easy it is for organizations, like the government, fall right back into the habit of treating people or "creatures" poorly because they are different. I think the movie shows how human kind would truly respond to beings of another world. I won't go into the film any further because I don't want to spoil it, but I do recommend it. The only thing I didn't like was the ending... I felt sad and unsatisfied... but I think that was the point.